How to talk to your family

What to expect

Telling your family that you think something is wrong with your loved one can sometimes be hard. You might find that some family members resist the idea that changes could be related to Alzheimer's. This is normal; it's a hard disease to face. But if you are seeing symptoms in a loved one that you think may be Alzheimer's, talk to other family members early. It may help to show them the Symptom Tracker.

Being afraid of the diagnosis is also normal. But keep in mind that receiving a diagnosis of dementia may be a relief. In one study, a diagnosis of dementia significantly decreased caregiver anxiety. Getting a diagnosis can be empowering, and can help you make informed decisions to help your loved one.

Helping them understand

Tell your family calmly that you are seeing changes that you think warrant a doctor visit. Ask if they would like to join you. If you have kept a log of symptoms, share it with them.

Perhaps those who do not live near your loved one haven't seen evidence of changes. Or, conversely, those who live nearest may not notice symptoms as much since symptoms progress very gradually.

If your loved one has taken the Clock Draw Test, make sure to show your family the results. Explain to them how the test works and what it means. Seeing real evidence that something may be wrong might be helpful for reluctant family members.

Explain that medication may help your loved one remain functional for longer than without medication. Starting Alzheimer's treatment earlier means you can start slowing the progression of symptoms sooner.

Get everyone involved

If you take note of symptoms as a group, it might help everyone face the issue reasonably. Using the Symptom Tracker may help make this easier.